I’m single. There, I said it. It may not seem like a big deal to you, but as someone who has always struggled with feelings of loneliness. it’s huge. I always thought that by 21 I would at least have an idea of who I am going to marry, if not already married or engaged. But here I am pushing 22 with no prince charming in sight. I won’t lie, it kind of sucks seeing all of your friends and classmates getting married and announcing pregnancies while you’re sitting around taking selfies with your dog (no? that might just be me then.) However, as bitter as it may sometimes be, I am coming to appreciate this season in my life and here’s why:
It’s just me and God
Jeremiah 29:13, “You will seek me and find me when you seek me with your whole heart.”
Being single, my main focus is my relationship with the Lord. If I were dating/engaged/married I would also have to focus on my partner’s wants and needs. However, my heart is free to focus solely on building my relationship with God.
Ephesians 1:17, “I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the Spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better.”
I’m not spending my single years being idle. I’m studying to be the godly wife and mother that I long to be. Every day, after I pray for my future husband, I pray for myself as a future wife. Proverbs 31 (the chapter about a woman of noble character) is one of the most read passages in my Bible. I’m using the time that I have before marriages to prepare myself for what it will take to be a good, godly wife.
I’m not truly alone
Isaiah 41:10, “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”
Though it may seem like, I am not truly alone. The more I mature in my faith and focus on my relationship with God, the more I begin to realize that He is always by my side. He has never left me (thought I have sometimes tried to flee from Him) and He will never turn His back on me.
I’m learning to trust God’s timing
Romans 8:28, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”
We live in a society that craves instant gratification. For example, a common conception today is ‘why wait until marriage to have sex when you can do it now?’
I yearn to be a wife and mother. I long for the intimate companionship of a husband and the unconditional love of a child. I know God isn’t keeping me from these things that I want so desperately just to be mean. The Bible says that everything that God does is for my own good so I am trusting that right now, at this point in my life, marriage isn’t what’s best for me.
All in all, I think the best way to get through a season of being single is to look as it as an opportunity; an opportunity to grow, change, and trust.