Embracing My Season of Being Alone


I’m single. There, I said it. It may not seem like a big deal to you, but as someone who has always struggled with feelings of loneliness. it’s huge. I always thought that by 21 I would at least have an idea of who I am going to marry, if not already married or engaged. But here I am pushing 22 with no prince charming in sight. I won’t lie, it kind of sucks seeing all of your friends and classmates getting married and announcing pregnancies while you’re sitting around taking selfies with your dog (no? that might just be me then.) However, as bitter as it may sometimes be, I am coming to appreciate this season in my life and here’s why:

It’s just me and God

Jeremiah 29:13, “You will seek me and find me when you seek me with your whole heart.”

Being single, my main focus is my relationship with the Lord. If I were dating/engaged/married I would also have to focus on my partner’s wants and needs. However, my heart is free to focus solely on building my relationship with God.

I’m maturing

Ephesians 1:17, “I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the Spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better.”

I’m not spending my single years being idle. I’m studying to be the godly wife and mother that I long to be. Every day, after I pray for my future husband, I pray for myself as a future wife. Proverbs 31 (the chapter about a woman of noble character) is one of the most read passages in my Bible. I’m using the time that I have before marriages to prepare myself for what it will take to be a good, godly wife.

I’m not truly alone

Isaiah 41:10, “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”

Though it may seem like, I am not truly alone. The more I mature in my faith and focus on my relationship with God, the more I begin to realize that He is always by my side. He has never left me (thought I have sometimes tried to flee from Him) and He will never turn His back on me.

I’m learning to trust God’s timing

Romans 8:28, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”

We live in a society that craves instant gratification. For example, a common conception today is ‘why wait until marriage to have sex when you can do it now?’

I yearn to be a wife and mother. I long for the intimate companionship of a husband and the unconditional love of a child. I know God isn’t keeping me from these things that I want so desperately just to be mean. The Bible says that everything that God does is for my own good so I am trusting that right now, at this point in my life, marriage isn’t what’s best for me.

All in all, I think the best way to get through a season of being single is to look as it as an opportunity; an opportunity to grow, change, and trust.




8 thoughts on “Embracing My Season of Being Alone

  1. kathylcsw says:

    I am 52 and never married by choice. I never waited around for a Prince Charming to come along because I never felt like I needed to be saved. By 36 I still was single but wanted a child so I had one. In the end we are all alone. That doesn’t prevent you from having a full and fulfilled life.


    • Sierra Smith says:

      I know being single doesn’t prevent me from having a fulfilled life, that’s why I made this post. Of course, I’m speaking from the perspective of someone who want to be married and have children. However, I disagree that in the end we are all alone. My experience has show me that God has always been by my side, even when I’ve felt like I was the only person on earth,


  2. Becky (So Very Blessed) says:

    Ha! I’m 30 and still taking selfies with my dog! Just like marriage, singleness has its perks and its difficulties, but it sure sounds like you’ve got the right focus! Just this morning, I wrote in my prayer journal, “Here is the pen, Lord. You know the desires of my heart and I will trust You alone to write my love story.” It’s been a huge season of trust and surrender for me! Thanks for sharing your journey.

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  3. Ailie says:

    Sierra you have such a beautiful and faithful heart. I can relate to wanting to be married by 21. As a married woman and mom I want to encourage you that what you are doing spiritually is so good and healthy. Life carries on after marriage and knowing you are not alone, who God has made you to be and that you can trust God are some of the things I wish I had known before getting married. They help you stay anchored through life’s storms. Thank you for sharing your heart and trusting God.

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  4. keisharussell84 says:

    Beautifully written!! May God bless you through this journey. God’s timing is always the best timing because he is preparing someone special just for you. Keep trusting God and he will lead you in the direction that you need to go!!

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